night thoughts
It’s time for night thoughts.
1. The other night I saw a movie my sister produced called Robot and Frank. I had heard and seen that it was getting amazing reviews.
It was really a fantastic movie. It was about a guy, Frank…living alone…and getting so old and forgetful he couldn’t really take care of himself. It was set in the future in 2025. The not so distant future. His son got him a robot to take care of him. The robot isn’t real but it talks and answers you like I’m sure Siri version 2025 will. Frank is an ex second story man (a high stakes robber). Frank is very curmudgeonly but the robot wins him over with his loyalty and pleasantness. BUt Frank keeps forgetting the robot isn’t real.
YOu have to see this movie. It is actually a hilarious comedy, with a Wes Anderson like humor. But it is also realistic, amazingly written, touching and sad.
2. Pools and Schools.
People move in groups. To find friends or prospects, you must enter a community. Be it a school, a club, a circle of friends, a company. There are plenty of fish in the sea…but they are moving in crazy fish balls…known as schools. You try to grasp one…they dart out of your hand. You must join the school of fish. Become one with the crazy bait ball.
become a member of the school…or die tryin’.
3. I saw girl with the dragon tattoo. There was a disturbing scene. Can you imagine. Then I watched a tv show called I Survived…people who had escaped rapes. Then I read in the newspaper about a 25 year old girl who went home from a club with a guy and he raped and killed her. Then I began to think men were evil. I felt the Girl With the Dragon Tattoo was great. She taught the rapist a lesson. I feel she also taught the males in the audience a lesson about what it would be like to be raped as a guy. If you are into evolutionary psychology or like to explain everything to yourself that way (my weakness), rape seems almost justified somehow. It’s like the strongest person wins. It made me realize, in the end, strength is what it comes down to. If a guy wanted to kill you and rape you, he could. How great would it be to be able to make that arrogant psychopath pay, by being able to overpower him. Like imagine being a real female action hero who was really able to kick anybody’s ass. I think I’ll read those books.
4. Dance classes have been going very well. I can’t get enough. I realized today…that kissing…for example…is a freestyle dance. No one taught you how. Or if they did, they could only teach you the basics. From there you have to freestyle…out of your element in a totally new way. In fact, all life is like that. It is all improv. but with physical activity it is usually less words and more movement i guess. like a dance. If you don’t have a partner to love, you can substitute a dance out thin air to the universe…to an imaginary partner…to yourself…for yourself.
In S Factor, they say you become someone else when you dance. Who do I become? Is it me? I know that it is me. In the evolutionary sense, it is the me…who is giving it all I’ve got…to show off my attractiveness and evolutionary fitness…my right to be here and pass on my genes. It’s weird sometimes, in class there are all these girls giving it their all…being super sexy. Who will be # 1. Who is the sexiest. It’s amazing that it doesn’t have to do with looks, but with the strength, focus, confidence that comes from the enjoyment of the moment, and the tease—who can outsmart the guy the most and make him want it the most—all these things have nothing to do with looks.
It is interesting how it becomes a cat fight. From all these dances I feel there are two things I have that may be an advantage in this who is the sexiest/survival of the fittest cat fight scenario. I can get lost in the moment and I always keep my cool. In life too…I feel there is no sense getting worked up about any boy. I feel they may leave you at any time. You must live for yourself and not rely on anyone else.
This is a cold reality of life. I didn’t see this one coming…but now I accept it. YOu are in charge of yourself. Now I look at pictures of happy couples and I say, who knows what their future holds. Best to find activities to love that do not involve romance and sex…since those things are out of your control.
Think about it in the old days…before birth control…people were only able to have sex like once a year…then they became pregnant and had to take care of their baby. Too much is not natural anyway.
books on evolutionary psychology should come with a “trigger warning”. They can drastically alter your world view…for the worse.
